Evil? Or Just An Eternal Toddler?

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Everyone wants to be heard; to know that their opinion matters, that THEY matter. But there is a difference between being “heard” (i.e. “understood”) vs. winning people over to agree with your opinion. It’s when people get these two concepts confused that problems arise.

Most of us learn at a very early age that we can’t always get our way, or at least we can’t always get what we want, when we want it or in the exact manner we want it. That’s what the so-called “Terrible Twos” is all about. The reason that you don’t hear about the Terrible Five’s, Ten’s, or Thirty’s, is because the majority of us figure out how to balance our personal needs and desires, with the needs and desires of our parents, siblings, neighbors, countrymen, and the world. It’s that simple but vital skill of Give-and-Take that distinguishes civilization from barbarism. It’s learning to play well with others.

Unfortunately, not everyone successfully learns the lessons necessary to progress past the stage where a toddler suddenly is faced with the fact that they are not the center of the world, and so these Eternal Toddlers [“ET’s”] continue to believe that everyone outside of themselves exists solely to satisfy their needs and desires. When confronted by the reality that they cannot make everyone snap to attention at their every beck and call, the ET ends up feeling constantly thwarted, oppressed, unappreciated, disrespected, and even abandoned. In turn, those feelings lead to intense, never-ending anger at those the ET perceives have come between them and their desires that they ultimately deal with by turning that anger back on others (in the form of adult temper tantrums or worse) and/or on themselves (i.e. self-loathing, severe depression, suicide). This is hardly a satisfying strategy to procure either the respect of others or a realistic sense of self-worth for the ET. As obvious as that equation may seem, ET’s rarely appear capable of recognizing the folly of that mindset or recalibrating their expectations and methods of communication that’s needed to escape the viscious circle they’re trapped in.

It is easy to fall into the trap of judging an ET – especially when you’re caught within the scope of an ET’s rage or continually compelled to witness the dark, disheartening world of an ET who has turned their rage inward. The inclination to yell “Snap out of it”, “Get Real”, “Grow-Up”, or “#!!?@!&!!! You!”, is understandable yet it’s foolish and counter-productive to give into your frustration that way, and can even be putting yourself at risk of great danger. So what can you do when your life crosses with an ET that won’t set you up as their Eternal Victim [“EV”]? The easy answer is to walk away and fuggetaboudit. But that’s not always possible, especially if you have conflicting feelings such as actually liking the person or even loving them, or if you’re stuck with having to deal with them for professional or other reasons. It’s heartbreaking to watch otherwise intelligent, decent people self-destruct and fearsome when an ET has the attitude of “Take No Prisoners”.

Lamentably, we are powerless to make the necessary changes for them. All we can do is try to be patient, to listen, to maintain our self-composure and dignity, to always maintain our self-respect, try to protect ourselves the best that we can, and then pray. Pray for a miracle that forces the ET take stock of themself, gather the strength to face the truth and seek help to turn their life around. Keep reminding yourself you did nothing wrong to deserve the ET’s venom. Forgive the ET, who is undoubtedly hurting even more than you, but don’t forget to take cover. And most important of all, constantly remind yourself that you can survive anything as long as you stick to the truth, never act with malice, and never stop having faith that somehow, somewhere, some time, you’ll finally be free.

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Unconscious Art?

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So much has been going on in my life lately that you’d think would serve as good fodder for thought, writing, and posting. I’ve got the thought part down pat, but continue to be overwhelmed and tongue-tied. While I know that a big part of what’s been getting in my way is directly related to how the constant and excruciating stress of my legal situation is affecting my health and my psyche and I’m just praying that once that obstacle is resolved for good, that my ability to think creatively and organize my thoughts will return. It’s curious how this affects only my verbal and writing skills but not my art. At the same time, it also is in keeping with my feeling that someone – or something – else is guiding my hand when it’s on my mouse, as I (almost) NEVER think about what I’m going to create either before or while “painting” something on my computer. It just simply comes out and I’m just as surprised as anyone when I see the result. Have any of you experienced that when you doing something creative?

This posting will be short but I did want to share with you some Good News for a change. In a not surprising move, the Florida Supreme Court issued their ruling declining to accept the discretionary jurisdiction that my adversary had sought to overturn the appellate court order that had been in my favor. (YAY! …Once again, my appellate attorney, Robin Bresky, Esq., rocks!) The case still looms in the lower court, where it had been remanded to decide the amount that my adversary must pay. Tomorrow morning we’ve got a motion hearing and a status conference, and so in keeping with my past practice, I’m serving up a fresh group of original legal icons for your pleasure.

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Memorial Day Tango

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First things first…

I’d like to offer my salute and prayers to all members of our armed forces and their support teams who bravely gave their lives for our freedom and for the freedom of those whose own governments sought to suppress freedom. To the families they left behind, we can never quite feel your pain, but recognize that you, too, have sacrificed for your country. We are grateful and proud to be the beneficiaries of your dedication to the ideals of a free world and to our country, which forges ahead working towards spreading those ideals and the tools of knowledge and love to achieve it. The struggle is hardly over, but the efforts of our military heros, fallen or disabled, family or in-the-field support, has not been in vain. Their spirits live on and inspire us to be worthy of their sacrifice. To the rest of the civilians like myself, please take a moment to remember and another moment to donate, whatever you can, to the VFW (Veterans of Foreign Wars) who provide much needed support for the soldiers who’ve returned with the scars of war and the families left on their own.

Next…

The old saw that “It takes two to Tango”, while clever, is a set-up for faulty logic when applied to any and all contentious disputes in litigation. No reasonable person would assert that the bloody, vicious battles between the Christians and the lions could have been avoided or should have been resolved by the Christians “taking the high road” by conceding the contest to the lions. What was true in ancient Rome remains true today in our modern-day colliseums: the court house. Like the Christians and lions, not every party to a lawsuit is responsible for the necessity of court involvement nor responsible for such litigation being unnecessarily prolonged and not every case where the adversaries share the same biological parents can be attributed to a mutual sibling rivalry. But it often can be difficult to determine who is the aggressor and who is the victim, which is why it is so vital for all of us to suppress our frustrations and preconceived notions and try to listen and observe anew.

As every judge in every court knows well, the danger in making premature judgments based upon faulty logic is the increased likelihood truth will escape, the merits never reached, justice will be compromised, and public policy defeated. The task we ask of our judicial system is tall indeed as our judges are as human as we. And so, on this Memorial Day, when we pause to remember those who’ve fought for our freedom, that we all resolve to aspire to facilitate justice in this life. Likewise, it seems equally fitting to pray for those men and women who struggle each day to keep the faith of our fallen patriots with their hearts, minds and courtrooms every day. Lord knows, it ain’t easy.

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This Blog Has Eyes

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It appears that my little ol’ blog has made it into the big time! In the latest turn of events from the decade-plus lawsuit I’ve been weighted-down with, my adversary has credited my writing with having such credibility and influence, as to deserve a number of hyper-linked citations to it in his/her latest pleadings. I suppose I should feel honored to some extent that my adversary not only extended the effort to track me all over the internet, but then spent well over 30 hours to read each and every one of my 158 posts. Does he/she simply find my posts and artwork to be that excellent and entertaining that it deserves so much time? Or was the time spent as part of a vitriolic and cynical hunt, looking for (and expecting to find) the type of vitriol and false accusations directed at him/her that my adversary has made a career of flinging at me?

As I’ve lamented many times before, it is virtually impossible to relate to someone who is either unable and/or unwilling to recognize where they end and others begin. Such persons (whom I’ll refer to as “Vlad” for the sake of convenience) project upon others, their own motivations and morality (or with either the prefix “a” or “im” as may be appropriate) and therefore fully expect others to take the type of actions that they would under same or similar circumstances. The biggest problem with this is that Vlad is apparently clueless that Vlad’s arguments are with a person created in their own imagination and have no accurate relationship to the thoughts, motivations or actions of the very real, flesh and blood person at the center of Vlad’s private hurricane. Case in point, are Vlad’s insinuations that my blog reveals my “true” feelings, motivation and intent which are allegedly vengeful, fanatical, obsessed, self-righteous, malicious, and that my motions before the Court(s) have been persecutory, legally improper and without any reasonable basis in fact.

I will not attempt to use this blog to defend any of those allegations (which I have only paraphrased above for sake of brevity), as that will be properly addressed in the courts. What I will say here is that Vlad is correct in the claim this blog reflects my “true” feelings, motivation and intent. While I completely disagree with Vlad’s conclusions, I think my postings to this blog speak for themselves, especially when taken as a whole and not snippets without context. And I’m very proud to stand on that record.

Because this is an active case now before two separate courts, it is not in anyone’s best interest to make suppositions or to prejudge the parties or issues. So, while I greatly appreciate the support I’ve received from many of my readers both on and off the blog, I specifically ask that such commentary be either kept neutral or communicated privately off this public blog. Thanks so much for understanding.

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Tonight’s freebies are not my typical fare. They are my heartfelt tribute to a very special and important woman in my life, my mother-in-law, Catherine Ann Fath Javorek. “Katie” as she preferred to be called, passed away last week, peacefully in her sleep, at the age of 92. Almost everyone who knew her, described Katie as a “Sweetheart”. She was caring and funny and always ready to stuff you with food. A deeply religious woman, dedicated to her Catholic faith, she nevertheless graciously welcomed me into her family and cheered when our son became a Bar Mitzvah. Katie introduced me to quilting while I was pregnant with Rob and shared her “Quilting Buddies” with me at monthly get-together. She loved flowers – outside, and enjoyed when I would read out loud to her from her favorite poetry book by Edna St. Vincent Millay. But most of all, Katie loved and lived for her 3 children, 4 grandchildren, and 3 great-grandchildren. I will miss her greatly but am comforted by the thought that she is now off dancing somewhere among the stars with her beloved Eddie.

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Justice Watch – Day 4,762

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Oh Nooooo! Not Again! – Well, it’s actually not “again” but rather “still”. Same case – new phase, as the legal process drags on and on… But still praying that soonit will finally be really over. As my regular readers may recall, the last time I posted on this topic, I had won on my opposition to my adversary’s appeal and won on my cross-appeal, and won on my objection to my adversary’s attempt to have the appellate, but rather than accept her defeat with some measure of professionalism, dignity and grace, my adversary filed a motion to have her appeal reviewed by Florida’s State Supreme Court. That was way back in October 2010 and to date, there has been no word from the Florida Supremes as to whether or not they will even accept the case. I’ve been told that could take as long as 2 years just to find that out, at which point if they do accept the case (a long shot at best) only then will it be time to prepare and file briefs on the merits of the issues before that court.

In the meantime, no “stay” on the 4DCA’s mandate has been granted by that appellate court, which means that once I file a motion detailing all of the legal fees and costs I’ve had to pay as well as providing argument and legal support for the additional sanctions that I’ve asked for, the trial court (Broward County’s infamous 17th Circuit) is required to hold a hearing to determine the $$ amount that my adversary must pay me and issue a final judgment accordingly. The good news is that my attorneys filed that motion yesterday! So progress is being made, slowly but surely, and I continue to pray and have faith that justice will prevail.

In keeping with the theme of the above post, tonight’s serving of free clip art, are a variety of law-oriented images I created as Part II of my “Brass Balz” series. Enjoy!

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Supreme Farce

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LEGAL DISCLAIMER: Please note that this post, as all others, represents purely my personal intellectual opinions and emotional feelings, and are not to be construed as anything more. As they say on “COPS” “All parties are innocent until proven guilty.” Since this case is still active, the final judgment of the justices has yet to be determined, but their ruling will be based on the official case records, which by law are available to the public (only certain of those documents are available online. For all others (transcripts, pleadings, etc.) you can only view them in person at the Florida 17th Circuiit Court in Broward County, Florida.

A brief poetic post to update you all

on the state of my legal fate under Florida law.

• • •

As last you heard my appeal it was won,

My adversary, livid, sought to have it undone.

Not wanting the Judges to be burdened with facts,

she tried striking my answer in a childish attack.

The Court had no patience to play such games.

Their mandate well-reasoned, the law very clear,

Three appellate judges denied her “Motion to Rehear”

• • •

In a fit of hysteria over the defeat of her plea,

unable to acknowledge loss gracefully,

my adversary scowled and dug in her heels.

Grabbing a torch for the earth

she’s threatened to scorch,

and is now charging onward

to the State Supreme Court.

• • •

Think about this. Yes! You heard me right.

My adversary’s taken to the Supreme Court her fight.

• • •

It does not matter that she abused my trust

nor does she care what is fair or just.

She flaunts the very law she’s sworn to uphold,

and perverts her fiduciary duty to benefit herself.

What matters to her most at the end of the day?

Simply to avoid all consequences, deflect all blame,

and shift to her victims her burden and shame.

• • •

She’s blind to the truth and deaf to my cries,

blissfully ignorant no one’s buying her lies

She’s contemptuous of all who don’t see her way,

charges them as biased, stupid or mean,

yet expects her bare argument and tears to sway.

• • •

With arrogance she proceeds to go higher and higher,

pushing her luck and refusing to quit.

But perseverance alone cannot bring her honor,

for she’s littered the pathway with hatred and bile.

When the goal that one seeks

relies on corpses and ruins,

there will be no adulation nor respect conferred.

• • •

How sad and lonely it must be

to live your life perpetually

behind a facade only you can see

with nothing of substance inside.

• • • ƒini • • •

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Got My Answer – Justice IS Possible in Florida!

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For those of you who’ve been following my blog and my long, long wait for a ruling from the court, I can now say that the light at the end of the tunnel is finally in view! Yesterday, the Florida 4DCA finally posted their opinion on my case. The good news is that they denied my adversary’s appeal of the trial court’s order from 2008. The great news is that they granted my appeal, remanded the question about “how much” my adversary must pay me for attorneys fees and costs, and also paved the way for the Trial Court to be able to consider the question of breach of contract, damages and unjust enrichment. So while it’s not completely over yet, as my son said,

“It’s the beginning of the end.”

The opinion will not be considered “final” (or as they call it in Florida, a “Mandate” for 15 days in order to give the parties an opportunity to request either clarification or reconsideration. But for those of you who are interested, you can download the Court’s opinion in .pdf form here: Carlin v. Javorek. The opinion only addresses the issues that were addressed in the order on appeal so it’s not really very informative as far as what I consider to be the “real” issues which brought about this case in the first place. But that’s okay because, as I said above, they not only did not slam the door shut on those issues, they left it wide open with a sign above it saying “Enter”.

Because of the nature of the case where certain issues remain to be resolved, I do not want to unfairly influence either the court, potential jurors, nor be in a position where I could actually be held liable for slander or libel (vs. unreasonably be accused of it) despite the fact that the truth is always a strong defense against such charges. So I hope y’all will understand if I don’t respond to any question for more details on those unresolved issues at this time.

I owe a huge hug and Thanks to my appellate attorney, Robin Bresky, without who’s understanding of what was really at stake in this case, hard work in researching the law and fussing over the wording to get it just right, and kind patience and understanding for what I have been personally going through. I could not have gotten through this without her and heartily recommend her services to anyone and everyone!

And, Thanks to all of you who have so kindly supported me and taken so much time out of your own lives to write me (on and off the blog) and/or call me. You are truly appreciated and I am blessed to have such friends as you.

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